Episode #57 - Attachment Styles, Relationships, and Money
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You learned about skeletal and muscular systems in school.
But what about the psychological and biological system that helps us form and maintain healthy relationships with ourselves, others, and our money?
Ed Coambs is a thought leader in Financial Therapy with experience in financial planning. He has combined his experience with analysis of the latest brain and love research to learn what makes us tick around relationships and money.
He’s found a theory that explains so much of it: Attachment Theory.
Ed is here to share how attachment styles can impact our financial wellbeing.
Your relationship with money, others, and even your perspective of yourself is developed based on how caregivers responded to your needs (or didn’t) from the time you were born.
This episode was so powerful that we’ve also recorded a Part 2!
You’ll find:
That positive social and emotional relationships are key to human survival and when deprived of them we begin to suffer
What “attachment styles” means and what each of the four styles may look like in you, your partner, or others.
About 50-60% of the general, non-clinical population exhibit a range of secure attachment behavior, indicating positive, repetitive relationships with themselves and others.
Ever wonder why some people seem naturally inclined to attempt financial feats on their own, prefer to control or relinquish financial responsibilities, or maintain distance from financial conflict? Gain insight on each of these behaviors as you listen to this episode.
A few highlights:
What it means to experience life as a securely attached adult [6:30]
Someone with an anxious attachment style likely has a negative view of themselves and a positive perspective of others, leading them to often overvalue the opinions and needs of others while undervaluing their own opinions and needs. [10:28]
An avoidant attachment style exhibits a positive view of themselves and a negative view of others, often creating distrust, isolation, cognitively oriented, dismissive of others, and emotionally distant. [16:38]
The fourth attachment style (disorganized) is a result of inconsistent influences within caregiver relationships and is often seen in those with backgrounds of abuse, trauma, and extreme unpredictability. [21:15]
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